I hate this day more than most days on the calendar. It is the one and only day in my life I hate being from NY. Today is the only day everyone ever wants to talk about. Where were you? What were you doing? They want you to tell them someone you loved was in …
My Mother and Phases of Sisterhood
Children of the African diaspora are broken. Yes, you, my darling. Scattered bits, held together with pain and glue. We travel through this life, carrying generations’ worth of hope and desire to survive, and spend so little time thriving. That is not our fault. The world we live in has been built for the explicit …
Monday Motivation: You are Enough
I was looking for a quote about productivity, since we have been quite busy producing and living and working. However, all the most "famous" quotes are from white males and it just feels like they have it easier than everyone else. You were born to win, but to be a winner, you must plan to …
Welcome to Wise Woman Apothecary
As Jenina mentioned back in February, we have been working for almost six months crafting our line of bath and body care products to bring them to you. We have slathered our bodies in butters and balms and our skin has never been happier. This weekend was a great one to share our products with …
A Word About Caregiving
Brown Girls are born into the world expected to give care. In some cases we are taught to mother before we are ever mothered ourselves. Sometimes we mother ourselves. Strong Brown Girls are seen as warriors before they are seen as human, before we walk or talk, we are fierce, pretty things. We are pushed …
When You Harm: How to Make Amends
A simple guide to ending the cycle of harm and making amends.
Monday Motivation: Healing
“Un-winged and naked, sorrow surrenders its crown to a throne called grace.” ― Aberjhani, The River of Winged Dreams What is surviving if there is no healing and wholeness to be won? What are we surviving for if not joy? Often the road to healing finds us face to face with our sorrows almost constantly... Sorrow changes …
Hopelessly Devoted to Me
2017 was the year of dreams deferred. I came to grips with a lot. My own limitations for one thing. My partner's illness is not about me, to center myself in his pain is selfish but, I am trying to be real and honest about it. I do have to admit we are changed, our …
The Road to Health and Healing
If you see me and I don't speak That means I don't fuck Wit you - Cardi B If you see me and I don't speak, it could mean that I don't fuck with you, but it could also mean that I'm trying to hold my shit together because I'm over stimulated and really just …
When Christmas Hurts
Hi, you. I see you. I know how hearing a snippet of Linus and Lucy or some other forsaken Christmas song puts your stomach by your feet and your heart in your throat and that the space between is occupied with anxiety and fear. I know how all of the reindeer stuff, red and green motif …