A simple guide to ending the cycle of harm and making amends.
When You Harm: How to Make Amends
Hopelessly Devoted to Me
2017 was the year of dreams deferred. I came to grips with a lot. My own limitations for one thing. My partner's illness is not about me, to center myself in his pain is selfish but, I am trying to be real and honest about it. I do have to admit we are changed, our …
The Road to Health and Healing
If you see me and I don't speak That means I don't fuck Wit you - Cardi B If you see me and I don't speak, it could mean that I don't fuck with you, but it could also mean that I'm trying to hold my shit together because I'm over stimulated and really just …
When Christmas Hurts
Hi, you. I see you. I know how hearing a snippet of Linus and Lucy or some other forsaken Christmas song puts your stomach by your feet and your heart in your throat and that the space between is occupied with anxiety and fear. I know how all of the reindeer stuff, red and green motif …
Brown Girls, Self Care, and Total Well-being
Let's cut all the bullshit from the narrative that has become "self care." Self care, as it's currently being sold, is a buzz word heard so often, from capitalists marketing, "an experience," that it has lost almost all its meaning in the practical world. In our podcast, A and I briefly discuss, "the face of …
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Jenina’s Self Care Checklist
A "self care checklist" looks different for each of us. This is because women of color, depending on how her identities intersect, face unique challenges in the world. Sikivu Hutchinson, author and educator, tells us, "Black women experience intimate partner and domestic violence at a rate of 35% higher than do white women." The mental, emotional, physical, …
Asia’s Self Care Checklist
When we started planning this series, I thought it was a great idea. As women of color, the world is hard on us in varying ways and we need to remember to be kind to each other. But more importantly, we have to remember to be kind for ourselves. We have incredible worth, with so …
Tending Wounds on Mother’s Day
I love my mom. My mom loves me. I believe that my mother has always loved me. I do not believe that my mother has always loved herself as much as she should have. I believe that affected the capacity of how she was able to love me. My mother, by divine magic and fierce …
GIFs for People Who Get Lost in Their Faves
Everyone has their favorite entertainment to escape into when the real world gets to be too real. Whether it's your favorite thing is a song/album, book, movie franchise, or television series, it is the "mindless" entertainment we turn to when we need to escape. Our favorite things keeps us inspired and using our imaginations. For those …
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Monday Motivation: Creativity
Don't wait for permission to do something creative. Ava DuVernay We don't need anyone's permission to indulge in the creative. Brown girls don't have a lot of room for this because our very existence is often judged so harshly. There seems to be such a strict criteria for Black and Brown kids to follow. A box they …
Brown Girls Out Loud 